GIVEAWAY: Win 1 of 5 copies of Guilt-Free Bottle Feeding by Madeleine Morris & Dr Sasha Howard (CD: 31/10/2014)

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I’ve written dozens of posts now about breastfeeding. Although I’d urge mum (that can!) to try and breastfeed, I know better than most that it isn’t easy. I lasted 6 weeks with both of my babies and I’m incredibly proud of myself for lasting that long.

With both children I was hit by crippling depression and anxiety. Although I believe every mother has the capacity to breastfeed, that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the best thing for her or her baby. My mental health really suffered as a result of breastfeeding and yet I put myself under incredible pressure to continue. Panic attacks ensued and I wound up being hospitalised several times. As a result I wasn’t the best mother I could be, and I didn’t enjoy those first precious weeks with Dexter or Heidi.

But Breast is Best… right?

Maybe not. Madeleine Morris and Dr Sasha Howard have now launched a myth-busting book that shows women they are not bad mothers if they can’t or don’t want to breastfeed; Guilt-Free Bottle Feeding - why your formula-fed baby can be happy, healthy and smart.

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This isn’t an anti-breastfeeding book, it’s an anti-guilt book

Unfortunately, in the quest to promote breastfeeding, formula and mothers who formula-feed or mix-feed have become demonised… We have all come to believe that ‘good mothers breastfeed, bad mothers bottle feed’. This is not only simply wrong, this ill-founded belief is damaging mothers, and their relationships with their babies, in what should be one of the happiest times of their lives. Madeleine Morris

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Half of all British babies will have a bottle of formula before they are a week old and their mothers feel guilty. They feel guilty because every single book, poster and midwife tells them that breastfeeding is the single most important thing they can do for their babies.
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But for some families, breast isn’t best. Some mums don’t produce enough milk, some have post-natal depression, others are juggling two kids already, or need to go back to work, and some mums simply don’t like breastfeeding. Are they bad mothers? No! But they believe themselves to be.
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Guilt-Free Bottle Feeding, written by award winning former BBC presenter Madeleine Morris and paediatrician Dr Sasha Howard resets the conversation around infant feeding, revealing how the benefits of breastfeeding have been oversold to British parents, and showing guilt-wracked new mothers they have not failed their babies by giving them formula.
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With a thorough, yet easy-to-understand analysis of science, parenting sociology and the modern media, Guilt-Free Bottle Feeding provides a balanced, much- needed and long-overdue alternative view to the simplistic message that ‘breast is best’. This practical book proves that despite the huge pressure women feel to breastfeed, it possible to raise perfectly happy, healthy and smart bottle-fed and mixed-fed children.

Breast milk is wonderful stuff… but sometimes breastfeeding doesn’t work out, for a huge number of complex physical and social reasons. We need to show mums they are not failures for giving their babies a bottle. Dr Sasha Howard

Guilt-Free Bottle Feeding:
  • Examines over a hundred original medical journal articles to show the benefits of breastfeeding in the developed world are not as clear cut as women are told
  • Looks at emerging evidence that the immense pressure to breastfeed is now a contributing factor to post-natal depression
  • Shows how sloppy science reporting, ill-informed websites and celebrity culture unfairly demonise bottle feeding, leaving mothers feeling like failures
  • Points out the double standards of a medical system which relentlessly pressures mothers to breastfeed, but doesn’t provide them with the support they need
  • Calls for an individually tailored ‘feeding plan’, to give mothers a realistic feeding goal rather than the blanket 6-month exclusive breastfeeding target, which 98% of UK mums fail to meet
  • Calls for a mother’s physical and mental needs to be valued in the feeding relationship
  • Reveals the ‘X-Factor’ of breastfeeding research, and why we may never know the differences between breastfed and formula-fed babies
  • Gives a large, detailed guide to choosing a formula, safe bottle preparation and how to bottle feed for maximum health and bonding – information which is shamefully lacking in the NHS.
Told with humour and personal experience yet grounded in years of fastidious research, Guilt-Free Bottle Feeding is a much needed real-world counterpoint to the almost religious promotion of breastfeeding which now dominates medical and parenting discourse.
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As mothers who both breast- and bottle-fed their babies (they met at their NCT class), and decorated professionals in their fields of journalism and paediatrics, Madeleine Morris and Dr Sasha Howard are uniquely placed to provide evidence-based reassurance to mothers they are not failures if they don’t exclusively breastfeed.
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Guilt-Free Bottle Feeding: Why your formula-fed baby can be happy, healthy and smart By Madeleine Morris & Dr Sasha Howard is available on Amazon for £7.59 (ISBN: 9781908281777), or in e-book format for £6.99 (ISBN: 9781908281784)
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*** GIVEAWAY ***

I haven’t read this book yet, but a copy is on its way to me. As someone who staunchly believes that breast isn’t always best and advocates pro-choice when it come to feeding your baby, I’m all for it.

If you’re currently bottlefeeding, pregnant, or just interested in the findings, you can win 1 of 5 copies right here. Just enter via the rafflecopter below.
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REVIEW: Yoomi Feeding System

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This review has been a long time coming due to all the problems I’ve had working out how to feed Heidi. But now we’re firmly in the combination-feed camp I’ve finally been having a good old play with my Yoomi feeding system. Here’s how we’ve got on.

Yoomi Kit

First thing’s first - What is it?

We’ve all been there. Stumbling around bleary-eyed in the kitchen at 3am, sterilising, boiling water, making up a bottle… be it expressed milk or formula you’re serving baby, the process is exactly the same. Then there’s the added frustration of out-and-about feeding - trying to flag down a waiter in a busy restaurant for a bowl of hot water. It’s a simple enough request but the waiters don’t share the same sense of urgency as they don’t have a squealing baby in their ear.

It was these struggles that inspired husband and wife team Farah and Jim to look for a solution. Enigineer Jim then designed Yoomi - the bottle that warms your baby’s feed in just 60 seconds.

It’s a serious bit of kit. In each feeding system you’ll receive a BPA-free bottle with anti-colic teat and a genius looking warmer that sits between the teat and the bottle in a snug rubber lined collar. There’s also a Yoomi pod for charging your warmer.

Sounds complicated? It’s not. It’s actually really easy.

Using the system:

The Bottle

Yoomi Bottle Pros

The bottle can be used on it’s own without the warmer. So what (if anything) sets it apart from countless others?

It’s best features are:

  • Well it’s a whopper and can hold up to 240ml - I’m not a fan of tiny stage 1 bottles as your baby will grow out of them quickly. Far better to buy larger bottles from day 1.
  • The measure markings are well-printed with large black font. It’s a pet hate of mine when you see bottles markings that are difficult to read (cough, cough… Dr Browns!) as you don’t want to be switching on all your kitchen lights in the dead of the night.
  • There are no leaks whatsoever as the oversized teat creates a rubber seal when screwed into the bottle. As this is a major limitation with so many bottles, it’s definitely worth highlighting this.
  • The bottle purports to be anti-colic - but then every brand does nowadays. It would be unfair of me to offer too much comment here as Heidi appears to get colic whatever preventative measure you use - we believe this to be a result of the formula she is using and the problem was not relieved or exacerbated as a result of using Yoomi, or any other bottle.
  • Finally, I really like the cap as this fits squarely on the bottle and creates a seal over the teat - so no spillages.

Bottle No Leaks

Any bad points?

  • The bottle is wide and very round making it cumbersome to hold. If you’re sat there for an hour per feed, your hand does begin to ache a little.
  • The sheer size of the bottle means in won’t fit in some electric bottle warmers and sterilisers.
  • The (slow flow easi-latch) teat is very soft as it’s supposed to mimic the breast, Heidi coped amazingly well with this but I have found been advised that some other babies have struggled with this if they have been introduced to firmer teats beforehand. You can of course purchase firmer teats from the online shop if needed)

The Warmer

So here’s the genius bit. The Yoomi warmer resembles a beehive made of clay. It fits snugly into the oversized teat then screws directly into the bottle. You turn it on by pressing an orange button through the teat. After 30 seconds, you turn the bottle upside down so your feed runs over the warmer and through the teat. Wait just 30 more seconds then feed baby.

Yoomi Warmer Feat

So, what do I make of it?

The feeding system is brilliant for feeding on-the-go. Before Yoomi, I tended to either pack sterilised bottles in a sandwich bag then seek boiled water whilst on the move, wait for it to cool, then feed Heidi… or pop pre-boiled water into the bottle, warm it by popping it into a bowl of boiling water, then tip out pre-measured formula straight into the bottle. Both methods have their disadvantages and we’ve had dozens of leakages and hysterics where the children have had to wait for us to prepare their feeds.

Yoomi takes the stress out of it as the pre-boiled water is safely held within the bottle and can be warmed to breastmilk temperature in a matter of seconds. It’s cut our feeding-on-the-go time down by some 30 minutes (perhaps more) so I’m obviously really chuffed with this and would definitely recommend it.

As for home feeds, I tend to use my Tommee Tippee for these. I just find the bottles that much easier to prepare and use. As per the new guidelines for bottle feeding parents we prepare every bottle from fresh (Craig tends to do this whilst I breastfeed Heidi for 30 minutes to placate her). As the feed is still warm when we offer it to her the Yoomi warmer is largely redundant for us.

Having said this, I can definitely see the merit of using the Yoomi feeding system at home. If you’re bulk-making bottles and your feed is room temperature by the time you get around to offering it to baby, then the Yoomi becomes invaluable. I have used the Yoomi system for this on a handful of occasions and Heidi does respond well to it. She’s much calmer after a feed than she is when the feed is cooler.

Yoomi Pod & Warmer

Any bad points?

  • Charging the warmer for the first time is a bit of a faff. You have to pop the pre-sterilised warmer into the microwavable pod, then put it in the microwave for 60 seconds. Following the instructions then becomes a little tricky as you’re asked to shake the pod to listen for a rattle - if you hear it, great. If not, you have to put it on for a further 10 seconds repeat if necessary). If you’re not sure what exactly you’re listening out for, this can be a little tricky.
  • Unfortunately, this process becomes no less of a faff for additional feeds as even the ‘heat shake, heat shake’ method involves putting the warmer back in the pod, and back in the microwave. Again, you’re instructed to listen out for the rattle. I’m sure there must be an easy way of improving the design so microwaving every time isn’t necessary.

Once charged however, the pod will stay charged until you use it. You can also store the charged pod in the fridge and it will maintain its charge.

  • You can’t use the warmer straight away after warming and will have to wait 75 minutes for it to cool (or 20 minutes in cool water). This means you have to stay on top of your feeds and ensure you’re charging well in advance of the next one. It sounds obvious, but I’d recommend getting into the habit of charging immediately after the last feed.
  • Each warmer is good for 150 charges then you’ll need to buy a replacement (normally £19, currently £16). If you consider a newborn baby is feeding some 4x per day, then this means you’ll be purchasing a new warmer every 37 days.

This all sounds like I’m being really critical of the warmer, but I’m not. I love the concept, I just feel it could be better executed. When a traditional bottle warmer can do the same job in a matter of minutes for home feeds, I do prefer this method. For out-and-about however, the Yoomi is an excellent option and one we’ve really embraced as a family.

You can buy your own, or get more information over on Yoomi.com, or find out what others are saying on Twitter (@YoomiBottle) or Facebook (YoomiBottle).

Disclaimer: We received the Yoomi Feeding System for free in exchange for our thoughts.

 

 

 

 


Is breastfeeding to blame for my baby blues?

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Breastfeeding is regarded by almost all as the best bonding experience between a mum and her baby. I’ve also heard dozens of mums talk of an overwhelming sense of pride that they’re able to solely sustain their babies. It all sounds very romantic and most mums will give it a good bash when they first meet their babies - myself included.

What’s more, every week the press will unveil some new benefit attributed to breastfeeding (sometimes spurious and ridiculous, but more often than not promoting the health and well-being of your baby in a way that can’t be ignored) - there was even some talk a few months back about the Government offering financial incentives to breastfeeding mums.

So if it’s that great, why am I this close to giving up?

Firstly there’s the way it makes me feel. I can’t seem to shake the thought that the act itself is primitive and animalistic. I feel like I’ve regressed to a dog or a cow swollen with milk. Adding to the effect, my breasts are large (currently 36H) meaning I’m favouring the rugby ball method with Heidi slung under my armpit on a cloud of pillows. This stops me smothering her with my breast but isn’t discreet and pretty like the pictures in the press. There’s nothing enjoyable about it either. I can’t gently stroke her head whilst she has her fill or she’d cop an elbow in the face! What’s more, it is isn’t really possible in the middle of Costa Coffee!

Add to this that fact I’m sporting a c-section wound that threatens to bust open at any moment, a baby that is yet to work out how to feed efficiently (one feed can take up to two hours), and a milk supply that has somewhat depleted given we had to introduce a few bottles of formula whilst waiting for my milk to come through, and hopefully I’m building a picture of just how much of a struggle this has been so far.

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Then there’s the impact on my toddler. As I watch Dexter struggle to come to terms with Heidi joining the family, every cry takes on a heartbreaking quality. He’ll call for Mama and paw at my legs and arms begging me to get on the floor with him and help him with a board puzzle. But no, I’m stuck in the most unnatural position you can think of with Heidi. I also go a little like a zombie when I breastfeed - I find it exhausting so often nod off. A few days ago I awoke to find Dex sitting on the floor of the downstairs loo reading a book in floods of tears. It broke me and I cried the entire day.

The discomfort is made even worse by the fact that my uterus continues to contract when she’s latched on. This is a horrible sensation and brings back flashbacks of the trauma my body went through before I was wheeled through to theatre. Then there’s the obligatory sore nipples. Every latch is excruciatingly painful. I feel stupid even writing this when my nipples are barely cracked but when you’re wobbling over whether to pack it all in or not you look for any excuse to quit - this is just another fat tick in the cons list.

Is it also selfish of me to worry about what state my boobs will be in when this is all over?

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All this has led to me seriously questioning whether it’s worth it. I know this might sound melodramatic, unnatural and even shocking to some, but I’m almost resenting Heidi’s insatiability and the sheer amount of time it takes to feed her. I feel so desperately sorry for Dexter and feel like a bad mum to both children. I hate the way it makes me feel about her, and I hate the way that Dexter is left for such long periods of time to entertain himself. Worst of all, I hate myself for even allowing these thoughts to creep on in.

I know I’ll be disappointed with myself if I admit defeat so easily. If Heidi gets more efficient and I make a real effort to wean her off these bottles, this could really work for us when I’m fully healed - it’s certainly easier than faffing around with bottles in the kitchen at 3am! But this doesn’t change the fact that I’ll never be able to recreate our feeding position in public, or be apart from Heidi for any length of time - I can’t ever see myself being able to express with my lowly supply. The only alternative is a complicated combination routine that I simply don’t trust myself to stick to.

I need some advice guys, I really do. Is there a connection between breastfeeding and baby blues? Perhaps this is the problem. I know that Craig is worried now and is keen for me to stop. He’s the one that sees me in tears daily, or irritable with Heidi. He thinks I’m putting too much pressure on myself and he has a point. I suffered quite badly with PND with Dex and do worry that some of the old signs are there again. Surely it’s not natural for me to dread feeding my baby?

 

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